For those that don’t know, my sister-in-law passed away a few months ago.

Mindy was thirty-one, with a budding career as a registered nurse and a flight nurse in the military. The unexpected loss is still a shock to me and, at times, overwhelming with her no longer being with us.

I, however, thank God constantly for those last holidays that I had with her, as well as those last precious visits when she came to stay with us.

She was a wonderful aunt and a beloved sister and daughter; she was especially an amazing friend and nurse so many that have had the pleasure of having her in their lives.

The following is a letter I wrote to Mindy and read at her funeral; it is my hope that it be a tribute to her and to show others how blessed I was to have her in my life:

Dear Mindy,

There are not enough words to express how much I miss you. I feel so selfish for saying I want more time with you because I know you are in the best place ever. But I want more holidays, birthdays, and visits with you.

I want my son to have you in his life when he needs someone to talk to, and I want my husband to have his sister calling him for no reason but to just talk.

Yet even in these days of absolute grief, I have these small moments of unexpected laughter. I imagine you getting to heaven and promptly informing God that you got to Him first before your brother.

And because you are Mindy, you would also make sure you have tuna casserole and Netflix for all of eternity, that Hogan has an endless supply of peanut butter, and that Chloe has an endless pile of squeaky toys.

But even though you made us believe that everything was about you, Mindy, it was actually the other way around.

You made it all about us.

I am amazed at how much time, attention, and love you gave to so many; it was even forced upon those unwilling to receive it at first, but soon they came to realize what I experienced for so many years: that you are a genuine and selfless person.

You didn’t spend time on trivial things like what to wear or what new gadget to buy. People were your passion. 


Even as a nurse you took care of your patients beyond expectation. You saw their pain and more importantly, their need. You have touched so many lives, Mindy.

Your witty humor and sarcastic retorts will be greatly missed…but mostly I will miss our talks. I hope that even in my sorrow, I remember to give like you gave; laugh like you laughed;

and love like you loved.

You are truly the best sister-in-law I could ever ask for.

Even though you are gone, I am truly blessed knowing I only have to look at your brother to see that same smile, to hear that same humor, and to experience those same quirks that only siblings are able to share.

I love you dearly and I will miss you every day. Rest in peace, Mindy.

Love, Jess



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